Stress: Fear to the Perfectionist
I was sitting in my car, listening to an episode of ‘Low Tox Life’ when I heard the most interesting concept. Alexx’s guest Dr Libby Weaver said something along the lines of stress being fear to the perfectionist and the high achiever. We begin feeling stressed when we have a lot on our plates, we hold ourselves to unrealistic standards, and as a result, become afraid of our to do lists, checking our emails, and opening our planners.
Wanting to do everything to a high standard isn’t a bad thing at all, but wanting, or needing to do everything perfectly, is. After all, as the saying goes “it’s better to do something imperfectly, than to do nothing flawlessly”. If you wait for everything you do to be completely perfect, then you’ll never truly do anything at all, if you look hard enough, you’ll always find a fault, a reason to not pursue your goals.
As Cara Alwill Leyba says in her book ‘Girl Code’ “when you embrace your fear, you become fearless”; embrace the fact that you’re not perfect, your parents aren’t perfect, your best friend’s not perfect, nobody is perfect. Embrace the fact that not everything you do is going to be perfect, and that it shouldn’t be, embrace yourself in all your imperfection, and you will become fearless.
Though stress can sometimes be unavoidable, we all feel stressed from time to time, so next time you find yourself becoming overwhelmed with stress and frozen with fear at the thought of your to do list, then try out this one simple tip that has worked wonders for me, and I hope it does for you as well.
Set three goals each day, just three things that you want to achieve that day, these could be as simple as washing your hair, going to a meeting, doing the grocery shopping, reading a chapter of a book, anything at all! Whatever your priorities are for the day just focus on them and hide everything else, completing three things is attainable, it’s realistic, it will make you feel less stressed, more accomplished and better to tackle other items on your list.
As Jen Sincero so wisely puts it “On the other side of your fear is your freedom”. So, go out there and achieve your goals, imperfectly or otherwise.