Love Yourself, Inside and Out
We are born with a blank slate, we learn everything through watching and listening to those around us. When we’re a child we have no understanding of how to love ourselves, we just do it effortlessly, without knowing that we are.
As we age, society teaches us that it is wrong to love ourselves, that it’s selfish, that we’re self-absorbed and arrogant if we do, and suddenly the acceptance and love we had for ourselves as a child is gone, only to reappear after some serious inner work and personal development.
Loving ourselves comes from fully accepting ourselves, not despite our flaws but because of them, being our true authentic selves without worrying what anyone will think of us, we are confident in who we are and love the person we have become, because we fought to become them.
Loving ourselves means that we have a deep appreciation for who we truly are. Our beauty is found within us, because it stems from the way we feel about ourselves, it is just as easy to believe that we’re amazing as it is to believe that we’re boring.
So how do we love ourselves?
One of the most important things you can do, and must do, is to set boundaries and make yourself a priority, this doesn’t make you a selfish person, just a happier one.
This can be done by taking some time each day to do something nice for yourself just because you deserve it, this could be anything from a nice warm bath, a cup of tea, reading a book, going to bed early, or eating a bowl of delicious ice cream, whatever it is that you want to do that makes you feel happy.
Setting boundaries also means auditing the people in your life, because the people that you surround yourself with are a reflection of who you are, and how much or how little you love yourself.
So really take a look at your relationships and whether or not they are still serving you, and if not then don’t be afraid to start cutting ties with those who no longer support you or make you happy. Just because someone’s been in your life for a while, doesn’t give them a free pass or unlimited access to you.
Setting boundaries around the conversations that we’re having with ourselves is essential, the way we treat ourselves sets the tone for how we allow others to treat us. How many times a day do you find yourself saying “I’m not good enough”, “I’m not pretty enough”, “I’ll never be good enough”, and so on? Would you say this to someone else? Would you stand by and let someone say this to you? Of course not! Then why would you speak to yourself this way?
You should be your biggest supporter, your own best friend, loving yourself is being our own best friend.
Katie Willcox says, “When we love ourselves, we can love the world”, and I couldn’t agree more.